Deciding on where to live or what job to take can be helped along with thought experiments. Some examples:
If you lived in your current house, in the neighborhood you’re considering moving to, would you still want to move?
If you lived nearer to something, can you imagine using it more often? Is it worth moving closer to?
If you lived in your dream house, in a city you don’t particularly love, would you still want to move?
If you take this new job, imagine yourself on the commute, doing the work and imagine what you’re going to love and hate about it. Is it worth switching?
These thought experiments help to tease out the real motivations and desires you have that you have trouble expressing.